...and Mighty Forces Will Come to Your Aid. -Basil
I've been called an idealist by almost everyone I've ever met. Like expecting the best (or at least hoping for it) is somehow the most misguided thing I could do in the world.
My mother wants me to settle into some semblence of job(not career) stability, find myself a no-good-nick and pump out a rugrat or two like she did. Nothing in the world would make her happier. It would probably validate her choices in life.
The only problem with that scenario...I refuse to pretend like what she wants is going to make me happy.
Sorry Mom,I cannot, for the following reasons:
+I will not let someone else tell me how much my work is worth.
+I will not let someone else dictate what kind of relationship I will be in.
+I refuse to have children with someone I cannot depend on. (Every relationship I've been in so far.)
+I will not settle for good enough.
Even if the best career, relationship, or whatever takes me forty years to find.
I've worked hard, damn hard to get where I am. I will not let it all slide through my fingers.
Dreamers only fall hard if they lose their balance.
Steady on...
My favourite response to pressure to find a man & procreate is the one I used to dole out (regularly, sigh) when I was almost 30 (in response to comments like 'you're really pushing 30 and you're not married and don't have a kid?':
ReplyDeleteOh... I hadn't thought of it like that. I'm so glad you brought this to my attention. I'm going to go to the bar, go home with the first guy that looks me up and down, skip the protection, hope he's fertile, and *really* hope he's not going to end up a deadbeat who I'll be chasing for child support for the next 18 years. Thanks for your help!
That seemed to shut them up. Don't worry, as long as you keep passing up the asshats, you will find someone who's decent. It took me until 31, but I found a nice guy. We're still sparring over marriage & kids and who knows if it will be a deal breaker in the end, but in the meantime I have a super nice boyfriend who I can depend on to help pay the bills. With my dating history, that's nothing to sneeze at.